Stand up for yourself!

why in the world would any woman let themselves be controlled by a man.  I dont understand, i do understand how people change, they may have not always have been a controlling man but then turned into one and you got blindsided. I can understand how you can love someone and want them to change, thinking they will lose their controlling ways, i can understanding that people get in bad , hard situations in life and lose alot, therefore depending on their man. Really we are all a step away from poverty, bad things happen and if you dont have a skill, a great job or a hefty savings account, you could be on the street. No one wants to be in a controlling relationship, i know people get used to it and its all they know so it really doesnt seem so bad. But COME ON, as a woman who is independant as hell, i cant see how anyone can let themselves be controlled by a man, who their friends are, where they can go, how long they can be out, always being watched, video taped, easdropped on, as if their mate should know their every movement and feeling. As individuals we are allowed to have our own ideas, our own voice and pretty much in any relationship we should be able to come and go as we please. If your mate is doing something bad, or you think they are cheating, they are going to do it whether you are watching them like big brother or not. Its just insane, the advances women have made, its like the stone ages. In my life so far, 41 years, ive NEVER depended on a man. Im independent and i love it. The minute i got in that kind of relationship, id be out the door. kids in tow.  With all the people in the world ,, we should all be happy, this is all there is. no repeats, you have to do it right, And with women banding together and helping each other get out of bad relationships and on the road to living alone , getting their life in order, it shouldnt be too hard. Alone, yes but with friends and family, its possible. I just am at the point in my life that i see life is precious and i would never ever live with someone i hate, or just pacify anyone. No one cares about you like you care about yourself.